1. would you put a significant amount of money in something like this? Obviously maintaining it secret and not putting the backup in a forum post.
I wouldn't put a significant amount of money in anything that only has one backup, and I like having options to use different systems. Even if I'd forget how to use one of my backups, I can just find back another one.
2. would you let anyone know the 3 secrets? If it's your wife, I suggest that you change the 3rd hint, unless it's the same person

Just kidding.
Some yes, some no. Depending on which backup it is again.
3. brute-forcing is super consuming for sure and not worth the effort.
That's the idea

4. if you save this on paper, would it be worth adding some info on the same paper about how to recover it? It should be good to include a guide because it's not very easy for non-technical non-bitcoin-savvy people to understand what they have to do even if the know the password.
I'd add enough for myself to understand it. I've seen
too many problems recovering Bitcoins, and
had my own difficulty too. Non-Bitcoin-savvy people aren't supposed to gain access to my backups.
5. how many backups would you do?
OPSEC
